The hard bit isn't saying sorry, it's giving it.

One day someone from a couple asked me to help them out on a small project. For their privacy sake, I'll refer to them as couple 'Marie' & 'Todd'.

So, Marie had asked me if I could help them with this personal project. I didn't see what was wrong, and I happily accepted.

Later that night, I asked Todd about the project, to find out what he thought were some good ideas. While discussing the matter, he mentioned that Marie didn't tell him much about the project too. From the conversation, I had a feeling that Todd wanted to this project personally with Marie. I asked him, if he wanted to do this with just her, and Todd gave me a reply around the lines of:

"Here's what. I'll help Marie with wherever she needs help, and we can do another project that's more adventurous"

How should I have taken the line? ....... I did take a hint though. Todd did want to do it personally with Marie.

So being so, I didn't want to intrude into their space at all. So I rung Marie a few days later, and tried to tell her that Todd didn't really want me in the project, and it would be more special if they did it together. Marie then told me that she didn't tell Todd much about it too. Akwardness crept up my mind.

Marie sounded very agitated over the phone after hearing what I had to say. She told me she would give me a call back later that night.

At that point, I felt I had done all the right things, in all the wrong ways.

I waited 2 hours for a reply. My mind kept going through that conversation. I kept thinking that they were going to argue. They never argue. The feeling was that they would have their first ever argument, over me.

I rang back and Marie didn't pick up. I left her a message and she didn't reply.

Till now, she hasn't replied.

It's all my fault.

How do you tell someone you're sorry when they won't accept it?

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Only time will tell .__.~ Hopefully everything will end up okay.

M12

Rayfy said...

Thank you. I really hope so too.
Still, what's the best thing to do?

chibi said...

Sometimes girls just like being able to be angry at someone... Give it some time, and I'm sure you'll get the chance to reach some kind of understanding. From what you've said, I don't think you really did anything wrong- the lack of understanding comes from the couple, who didn't seem to want the same things. They never argue? Well... sometimes arguments are needed in relationships- it's a mean whereby they can speak their mind and really let each other know what they think. If they can get through it, then they'll only be stronger- if not, I guess things would come to such ends even if no one interfered.

Don't feel so bad, Ray =)

Rayfy said...

Thanks Chibi. You were right. It turned out to be one messy misunderstanding.